For some couples, the healthiest decision they can make is to weather the rough times together. For other couples, it is a far healthier decision to divorce than to remain together. However, because the decision to end a marriage can be an emotionally tumultuous one, it is not always easy to tell whether you and your spouse specifically should remain together or go your separate ways.
An experienced family law attorney can help you navigate the process of legal separation or divorce if and when you decide that divorcing is the healthiest option for you. However, it is important that you are relatively sure of your decision before filing divorce paperwork. After all, deciding to divorce will change your life forever. And your divorce settlement will be far more likely to bring you peace rather than pain if you are sure of your decision.
Only you can truly be sure of what decision is healthiest for you. If you are in an abusive relationship, you should leave as soon as you can do so safely. If you are not in an abusive relationship but you are sure of your decision to leave, by all means call an experienced attorney and move forward with the process.
However, if you are unsure of what to do, it may benefit you both to speak with an attorney about what the process entails and to do some soul-searching before actually choosing to file divorce papers. Ask yourself whether you will be giving yourself and/or your children the best shot at being happy and healthy if you stay or if you leave. And do not feel like you have to rush your decision. It is your life and your process to own.
Source: The Huffington Post, “9 Crucial Questions to Ask Yourself Before Calling the Divorce Attorney,” Winifred M. Reilly, April 21, 2014