The adoption process can be endlessly rewarding once it is complete. However, the process of filing paperwork, waiting to be matched and finalizing an adoption can be a uniquely trying one. Because adoption is so personal and because the desire to have a child is deeply rooted in the concepts of love and family, individuals waiting to adopt can find the holiday season to be more sad and stressful than joyous. Although the hope is that a child will soon be filling one’s home with laughter, the absence of that child can weigh heavily at the holidays.
There is no one “right” way to cope with adoption-related blues at the holidays. Each individual must do whatever he or she needs to in order to embrace the joy of the season while processing any negative emotions that may be associated with waiting to finalize an adoption.
In general, it can be very helpful to take excellent care of yourself at this time. Eating well, getting enough rest, exercising and taking time to enjoy hobbies can allow your body the energy it needs to both process your negative emotions and embrace positive ones.
In addition, it can be helpful to mentally prepare for any celebrations you may be attending where children will be present. If being around children is too much for you right now, consider excusing yourself from these celebrations this year. If you feel that you cannot excuse yourself, knowing your limits and planning a viable exit strategy may help you take some of the pressure off yourself in regards to this situation.
Source: The Huffington Post, “8 Tips to Beat the Post Divorce Christmas Blues,” Lisa Thomson, Dec. 15, 2014