We all have our own perceptions about what we think adoption is or why it happens. Most people think of domestic adoptions involving an infant and an adoptive mother and father. But as our regular readers know, adoptions can come in all different shapes and sizes.
From international adoptions to cases in which a child is older, adoptions can be traditional or untraditional, and can be complicated or simple. Today, we'd like to look at some of the perceptions that people might have about adoption that might be different from real life experiences.
One perception people have regarding adoption is that people only adopt when complications make it unable for them to conceive. In reality, there are a number of reasons why a person might choose to adopt. In some cases it may be because of infertility but in other cases it could be because an individual or a couple wants to give a child in need a good home.
Another perception is that all adoptees are curious about their adoption, including who their birth parents are and where they are. Although this may be the case for some, it's not the case for everyone. Some adoptees are thankful for their family and have no desire to go looking for their birth parents.
The final perception we'd like to talk about today concerns the emotional value people place on adoptions. Many people believe that adoptions involve a painful decision by a birthparent or because a child has gone through something difficult or traumatic. While this may be the case at times, not all adoptions are like this.
In fact, a stepparent may decide to adopt their spouse's children because the other birth parent is absent. This may not be the traumatic experience most people associate with adoption, but it is an outcome that is more about what is in the child's best interest and less to do with the emotions we attach to it.
Source: The Huffington Post, "What an Adoptee Wants You to Know About Adoption," Madeleine Melcher, April 6, 2015