Putting your child up for adoption is a difficult decision, especially for young mothers. No matter the reasons, you are ultimately making a choice that will help your child have the best life they can. However, you still have to choose their parents.
As a birth mother, you may have an image of the type of parents you want. They are both highly-educated professionals who wish to expand their family for the first time, or they are loving parents who want to add another member to their home. In both cases, you have to decide what qualities to look in those parents.
What to look for in the selection process
While you may want specific qualities in your adoptive parents, there are some general characteristics to look for while shuffling through adoption applications, including:
- Passionate about parenting– The best parents are people who are passionate about parenting and taking ownership in their new role. For adoptive parents, they need to be able to take charge of the transition process while maintaining a healthy relationship with the child.
- Flexibility – As a parent, one of the best qualities you can have is flexibility. You continuously have to digest a lot of information quickly while making decisions for your child. The more flexible you are, the higher the success you will have as a parent.
- A reliable support system – Parents often rely on one another as support, but support systems often extend to relatives, friends and community members. The more support a set of parents have, the more likely the child will have a rich life, full of great relationships.
- Persistence – Parents want their children to live happy, successful lives. But to do that, parents have to work hard and consistently to ensure the best experience for their children. There are times when they will make mistakes, so they need to be able to learn and grow as better role models.
While all these characteristics are essential in potential parents, it’s critical to listen to your instincts when you meet with couples. You may have a great feeling about someone on paper and a completely different impression in person.
Going through adoption is scary, but once you find the right adoptive parents, you will feel validation in your choice. You know that your baby is going to the right family for them and you will be able to breathe a sigh of relief.